I didn’t want my blog to turn into a completely golf focused thing. I know a lot of people don’t care about golf (you all should though it’s great) and even the people that do, don’t care about other people’s golf. That’s not a criticism, that’s just the way it is… aside from our closest friends and family, people care more about themselves than other people.
But when you have a day like I did on Monday, you kind of want to share it. Not because I want to tell people I played well, but because I want to share that feeling. I was playing at a college tournament with my team, FIU, and won it by eight shots with rounds of 64 and 69. We won as a team too which makes it all the more rewarding. The 64 was the lowest round I’ve ever had by far, and the thing that makes it even crazier for me to get my head around was I actually got to 9 under after 15 holes… I never thought I’d be able to say I shot 64 with a double!
Only a few people will care that I just had the best round of my career (people I owe a lot to), and I don’t need any more than that. But I do know that there are a whole lot of non-golf related things I’ve learnt over the past 15 years, through doing golf related things. And this is one of them.
I know I’ve worked hard for the things that I think are important for most of my life, and even more so in the past six months. But sometimes things happen, and it makes you wonder if you really are working hard, or working on the right things, or just generally if it’s all worth it.
Because you don’t necessarily get the results to prove it. Golfers know that better than anyone – you do everything right; everything that you’re supposed to do for days and weeks and months on end. You turn up to the first tournament of the year feeling unbeatable. And then you shoot four rounds of 76 and drive home with your sad songs on repeat and wonder why the hell you put yourself through it.
But then you have days like I had on Monday.
It shouldn’t take results to prove to ourselves (and to other people) that we’re doing the right things. Changing that mindset is something I’m attempting to address. If a couple of things had gone differently on Monday, and I’d been level par instead of eleven under, it wouldn’t have changed everything I’ve done over the past six months. That’s just the way golf, and life works. You have days when everything falls into place and you have more days where it doesn’t. But results aren’t always reflective. Great golfers can shoot 80 and bad things can happen to good people. So don’t wonder why the results aren’t coming. If you keep doing the right things, they will – and they’ll come more often. So just keep doing them. That’s all I’m trying to do.
Huge congratulations on your round (Mrs Massey sends her congrats too!). Love your thought process and the fact that you are recognising things now, that many of us older generation have still not figured out!
Always sending best wishes, love and support!
You are an inspiration my lovely!
Thank you!! Now I have to make sure I take my own advice…. but your messages and support from back there means a lot 🙂 hope all is good with you! Xx
Great sentiment! Results mean something but people often don’t realize that “doing the right things” is only one part of the equation. One big realization that makes life much easier, and you hit the nail on the head. I have one disagreement though. “People care more about themselves than other people.” You know most people do. But I believe there are truly altruistic people out there. The kind whose hearts break for those they have never and will never meet, and who put their own desires last. I know that’s not the main point of the post but the way you said it so matter-of-factly just took me by surprise a little haha. Great blog though. You might not realize it but people you’d never expect and may never even speak to are reading this stuff. Keep it up!
Thank you for the comments!! Means a lot to know people actually read this stuff because I want it to be more than just me rambling about my day. And to your point about caring about other people, I do 100% agree that there are a few people out there who feel things a lot more deeply than anyone else. I just wish I saw it more because the more people I come across the more I see the opposite happen. Maybe I’ll write a post about it sometime! But thanks again 🙂